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Planning our wedding has been such an experience. I don’t have a wedding planner (lesson learned below), and I’m 500+ miles from all of my friends and family, with the exception of my Maid of Honor who lives 90 miles away in Charleston. So, I’ve basically been doing most of everything on my own and am thankful for my bridesmaids who keep me accountable via email and Facebook and who have made visits and helped in all their own little ways :)
So in honor of WW, here’s some of the things I’ve learned since embarking on this journey to being Mrs. Croft…
- Hire a wedding planner. If I could have a do-over, this would have been the first vendor I booked. I’d have told her my my budget, my priorities, and the things that were less important but obviously still a part of the process. Now that I understand how much is involved in planning a wedding, I understand why planning weddings is literally a job. Because when you already have a full-time job, planning a wedding is basically adding a second one to your plate.
- Details are all about YOU. In the beginning, it was so easy to scour Pinterest and say “ohh I love that” or “we HAVE to do that!” but creating projects and details based on what was unique to someone else does not create a wedding that is unique to you and your fiance. Start with a list of attribute that are unique to you as a couple, THEN find inspiration based on those attributes. And then, tweak them until they are 100% “you.” Otherwise, you’ll look back and feel like you were at someone else’s wedding, not your own.
- I know it can be done, but you don’t really want to do it. Trust me…just don’t DIY your invitations. It’s too late for me now, but I totally would have hired Dodeline Design or Little Bit Heart (for Marylanders) to do mine. Or if going through a designer isn’t you’re method of choice, you can find many beautiful suites on Etsy. It will all be okay, but this was so much unnecessary stress. I already know I’m not a designer, so I don’t know why I thought I could pull this off.
- Do a little at a time. I think everyone gives this advice, but there’s a reason. It can be flat out overwhelming if you try to tackle a ton of things all at once rather than chipping away slowly.
- Don’t lose sight of what it’s all about. Day in and day out I just can’t wait to read my vows to my best friend, walk back up the aisle with a new husband, and celebrate with all my favorite people. It’s not about favors or escort cards or linens…you have to be able to let go of the things that might not go as planned and know that what’s meant to be will.
- Hire good vendors! So important! I remember when I was looking for a caterer…I inquired with several who specialized in good down home country cooking, and ONE emailed me back within a week. ONE…out of four. And that one emailed me within a day. When I finally got two of the others (never could get the fourth), it took WEEKS to even get a quote back. By the time I’d gotten a quote back from the other two, I’d already booked with the first. Why on earth would I expect someone to give such an important day ANY real attention if they can’t even respond to my inquiry in a timely manner? You should have high expectations for your vendors to be reliable, timely, and helpful. Our caterer wasn’t the least expensive one I inquired with, but guess what? They’re also coordinating my rentals for me AND also sent me a floor plan of my venue with all the tables on it…talk about helpful! Their willingness to go above and beyond with make me feel so much more comfortable spending extra money with them…I’m getting a lot of value for my dollar.
Hi! I’m Brittani, and I’m a South Carolina and Georgia wedding and portrait photographer. I’m also a wife, bonus mom, animal lover, and passionate about creating real, timeless, and romantic images that tell a story and are full of life. I’m inspired by light, love, the outdoors, and adventures with my family. Feel free to browse the blog to see more of my work, learn a bit about my life, and don’t hesitate to send me a note if you’d like to chat!